Thursday, August 2, 2007

The View from Inside Learning it the Hard Way (a naughty slave’s dream)

If you are a misbehaving submissive, then learning things the hard way makes your submission all the better. But, of course, thatт??s only when you are playing. When it comes down to the nitty-gritty of most things, people would rather put aside the difficulties and make things happen as quickly and easily as possible. Unfortunately, it doesnт??t go that way for most people and making mistakes becomes one of the most important learning techniques. Such is the life of Thatт??s not to say that we donт??t do certain things intentionally т?? weт??re not into the "trial and error" lifestyle, but all the same, nothing is as easy as you first think.

Speaking of learning it the hard way, recently we attempted to launch the first sponsored BDSM-Net slave auction. While our intentions were good, we made some mistakes that we shouldnт??t have. Foremost was trying too hard to make the event rigid in its rules, too limited in as much that we would judge submissions, and too small because we were limiting the event to a select number of auction items (the slaves) and auction participants (the Doms).

Compassion and fairness are key to a healthy BDSM eventт?І Unfortunately, these are too easy to forget sometimes. Of course the main intention of the event was fun. While we tried to keep compassion and fairness in mind, they were not at the top of the list when we first tried to put the event together т?? we were thinking maximum excitement for т??viewersт??. IRC is different, however, itт??s not about "viewers", itт??s about participants -- the participation creates the fun.

These concepts were, thankfully, beaten into me by two wonderful IRC personalities: princess and silkenluv. After hearing what they had to say shortly following the initial launch of the auction, we decided upon a vastly different approach. While we can't discuss the new rules and the new venue at the moment, suffice it to say that weт??ve decided to develop an auction engine and open the event up to many more people with much more relaxed rules and more enjoyment for everyone.

Enough of the hard learned lessons, though. A few weeks ago I had a very interesting letter sent to me. One of our readers wrote describing how he liked to tie himself up. "Now thereт??s an idea," I was thinking. Iт??ve read about self-bondage, but had yet to receive any email concerning it until now. When I spoke of it to the others who work with me, they looked at me and wondered why in the world I hadnт??t bothered trying it yet.

Well, I said I wasnт??t going to talk about learning things the hard way again this time, so I didnт??t try the technique. Although if I did, I would have purchased the "Iт??ve fallen and I canт??t get up device!" It would have been a great story for the person who showed up to rescue meт?І

Take your favorite set of handcuffs, or bonds with locks, and drop the key into a bottle of water. Freeze this water with the key in it (be sure to practice for a little while to find out how long it takes the water to thaw). Take yourself to some fantastic location in your house remembering to bring that frozen bottle with key along with you. Lock yourself up and plead with all your heart that today will be warmer than most because you arenт??t going anywhere until that bottle thaws.

Since my interest in self-bondage has been piqued, please write me about it because Iт??d be happy to share your ideas with everyoneт?І

Back to the basics again, some other things that Iт??ve been speaking of have recently started on the site. One of the best pieces of news is that the original stories section of the site now has new stories in it. While there arenт??t many yet, they will be added on a regular schedule now that we have the procedure down.